Five Times as Much

John Gottman (Why Marriages Succeed or Fail) claims that successful marriages tend to fall into one of three conflict resolution modes: validating, conflict-avoiding, or volatile. Surprising though it may be, any of the three can be valid patterns. He has found that a rule-of-thumb formula for marriage success is this: a successful marriage has five times as many positive as negative moments together. (p29)


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